How To Get Un-Stuck

At times, we may get into a state where we just feel stuck. A state where no matter how positive our outlook is, the blows keep on coming. It can get exhausting. The truth is, none of us are immune from problems. Life happens to everyone, it’s how we react to life that will determine the quality of it. Easier said than done, I know. Car break down at the most inopportune time? You’re working overtime busting your butt trying to pay the bills but they don’t seem like they’re going anywhere, possibly even getting worse? It’s easy to want to feel like no matter what you do, it’s not worth it. This post is not to cram some positive thinking hodge podge down your throat. I’m not going to do that because I know that no matter what I say to you about telling you to do something or to think something, it’s not going to work. I will however challenge you to think differently. I will challenge you to think about the process, the process moving from a current struggle in your life THROUGH it to where you want to be. It’s to get you UN-STUCK. So why do some people achieve success and why do others seem to get stuck? Why do some people quit trying to achieve a goal while others achieve them so easily? Why do people quit in the face of adversity? The number one reason why people quit doing the things they want is simply because they fear being uncomfortable. They don’t understand that there is going to be some sweat equity involved. They don’t understand that in order to have something you’ve never had, you have to do things you’ve never done. Most people are simply afraid to step out of their comfort zone. Also, successful people (I’m referring to successful people as those that have achieved what they’ve set out to) have adopted a framework, a process that makes the goal real and achievable.

The first thing you can do is to create a compelling future for the thing that you want to do. This is simply a reason, a feeling that is generated by the action that you want to create. This should be a statement that actually draws you TOWARDS the goal, not keeps you where you’re at. If you want to lose weight you shouldn’t say, “I want to lose weight because I’m fat.” Can you feel how big of a drag that is? There’s no compelling future there, only a compelling thought that you want to go plant your ass back on the couch! Instead, ask yourself how would it feel for you to lose weight? What would it look like to you? How would your spouse feel about you losing weight? How would you feel about the way your spouse feels about you losing weight? Would you feel happy? Would you feel more energetic? Would you be more hopeful? See how this creates positive emotion inside you and how it generates excitement for you to act? A lot different than the opposite, right?

Secondly, MATCH AND MODEL. Find the tools that will get you to where you want to go. Seek advice from people who have done what you want to do. If you want to lose weight, obviously you’d want to get a gym membership and maybe even enlist the help of a personal trainer…at the very least, learn different exercises and how the machines work, talk to a nutritionist and learn about what to eat and what to stay away from. Find people who have done what you want to do and do what they’ve done. Now, if the personal trainer and the nutritionist are overweight and out of shape, should you listen to them? Probably not!!! If you want advice about how to have a healthy relationship, should you take advice from people who have had multiple divorces? Probably not! Find someone that has what you want. Find out WHAT they did to achieve those results. Do EXACTLY what they did to get those results, and guess what. You’ll achieve the very same results. This example may be a little outdated since most refrigerators these days come standard with ice-makers, but we all remember filling up ice cube trays and throwing them in the freezer, right? Think about how UNCONSCIOUS we were at doing that. Did we ever stop and think one time, “I dunno…maybe this time it may not work…” NO! Of course not! A long time ago, someone discovered that if you have temperatures that are less than 32 degrees Fahrenheit, you can create ice cubes by putting water in this little plastic contraption with little dividers in it that look like squares!

There is one more aspect, and that is the freedom of, or acting despite inner conflict. If you have a compelling future, if you have the tools and have found who to match and model, but you don’t believe you deserve the success you may achieve, do you think you’ll be motivated to achieve it? If you have a compelling future and have the tools and found someone to match and model, but you still don’t believe you can achieve it, do you think you will? Probably not. It is ESSENTIAL for one to be free of personal conflict. You must believe you deserve and you must believe that you can. OR, find a mentor, a close friend that will push you so that you can borrow THEIR belief in you until you develop it yourself. This is acting despite inner conflict. Franklin D. Roosevelt once said, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.” Back to the compelling future! Is your goal more important that the pain you may experience or the fear that you’re experiencing now? It should be. There may be other inner conflicts one may experience as well. This could be resentment of others, regret for past actions/choices, guilt for previous actions/choices, among others. I’ll agree with you…just those three last conflicts I listed are tough to overcome. They require deep soul-searching. The good news is that you can DECIDE to live your life differently starting TODAY that you have up until now. YOUR PAST DOES NOT DICTATE YOUR FUTURE.

I’m a Christian. I’m not here to push my beliefs on you, but it’s where I draw a considerable amount of my strength from. My beliefs are my beliefs. I believe that we were created in God’s image. I believe that we were created with greatness and we all have God-given abilities to do anything we want to do. Its just up to us to learn where to find them and how to use them. I also believe that God wants us to live in abundance. Not just in terms of abundance of money, but abundance of health, abundance of love, abundance of friendships, abundance of DREAMS! I believe that God put dreams in our heart not to torment us, but so that we pursue them! Our dreams are most often our purpose! A lot of people will say that what they have currently in their life is good enough. It could be a great marriage, healthy children, a secure job…that’s all fine. That’s okay. But appreciation for what you have is different than a dream that is untapped. Remember when you were a child, an adolescent. We all spoke with conviction about how we thought our lives would look like later in life. We were CERTAIN. Remember it. What did you tell your parents your life would look like? What did you tell your friends you would be doing? Is that the way life is looking for you currently? Most often with most people it isn’t. This creates an inner conflict. Achievement of our dreams is where one finds personal fulfillment. Pursuing your dream gives others permission to achieve theirs! One of the greatest speakers of our time Mr. Les Brown once said, “The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” You’ll be amazed at the results you can achieve when you act with faith, belief, and conviction of your dreams. “The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t are both right. Which one are you?” – Henry Ford

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Why Would You Want To Be Wealthy?

The biggest obstacle to achieving wealth is ones perspective about it and what it’s use is. If you have a bad attitude toward those that have it, you’re pushing it away at EVERY level…even the level that will allow you to live comfortably. If you view money simply to live lavishly and to buy material things, then even if you had wealth, you’d piss it away…why most lottery winners end up broke soon after they win.

Change your attitude about money and what it can do, not just for you but also for others! If more money could help you pay your bills each month, would it be worth changing your attitude about it? If more money could help you be more CHARITABLE – either to a huge cause or to a family who experienced a sudden tragedy – without feeling the need to check your bank account for how much you could SPARE, would that be worth you changing your attitude about it? Money is simply a physical manifestation of the world inside your mind! What reasons that you are passionate about would you want to achieve wealth? To not have to work a job, freeing you up to spend more meaningful time with your family? To be able to free yourself from the chains of debt? To be a true philanthropist, everything from spreading financial resources to different causes OR on a bigger scale, starting a foundation or a charity in your own name that benefits a cause close to your heart? Brainstorm the reasons why you would. I challenge you! Feel the smiles come to your face when your putting a POSITIVE PERSPECTIVE on money and it’s BIGGER PURPOSE rather than the negative attitude we are conditioned to have because of the lack of it.

For more on this subject, I strongly encourage you to read “Secrets Of A Millionaire Mind” by T. Harv Eker.
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Find A Way To Win…and Enjoy The Journey

It was February of 2011 and I had just finished up an amazing visit to the city of Chicago with a few friends and a few new ones.  A blizzard had gone through Minneapolis/Saint Paul, and an airport closure that had cancelled thousands of flights back into MSP meant that it was going to be a busy day at the airport at Midway Airport in Chicago.  I didn’t have to be back at the office until 11 am that next day, so I called Delta Airlines and offered to give up my flight on the early 7 am flight in case my seat was needed by anyone needing it and took instead a seat on the later 9:30 flight.

Now that I had a couple of extra hours in the morning, I decided to go out with a bang in Chicago.  Found a bar called Halligan – an old Irish bar and Firefighter hangout – which had great specials and a lively atmosphere.  I met more awesome fun people and enjoyed my last night in the city.

Even with the later flight…you can imagine after a good night out I still managed to be running late for my flight.  Good thing I was already packed….j quickly showered, grabbed my bag and made my way towards the train to the airport.  As I reached the Delta ticket counter at Midway, the ticket agent informed me that I was supposed to be on the 7 am flight….my change request was never processed and because of the cancellations the day before, there were no other seat openings for the rest of the day.  The old me would have been fuming….but the new me just laughed it off.  I’d find a way to win.

I didn’t panic…in fact, my first thought was that I was absolutely starving and saw my misfortune as a chance to get breakfast, haha!  I got back on the train and headed back towards Downtown Chicago, found myself a Starbucks and planted myself there to plan my strategy.  I called my personal assistant to put them on alert for any openings on Delta that may arise, while I navigated my options on the ground.

My first thought was to find a rental car and just drive back to Minneapolis.  After combing through my travel site, it appeared that because of all the travelers whose flights were cancelled, there were absolutely no cars left in the entire city of Chicago.  Wow.  How else can one get out of Chicago?  I then remembered….MegaBus.

With a smartphone equipped with Google as my only ammo…I searched for MegaBus and found their central location.  I hopped back on the train.  Along the way, I struck up a conversation with a few of the passengers about sports, the city…had such a great time that we exchanged contact information and we still keep in touch to this day.  I arrived at my stop and found myself somewhere on the Southwest side of Chicago.  I quickly realized, only to be confirmed by the lady at the desk, that I wasn’t at the ticket office or the place that the bus actually picks up travelers….I was at the bus garage.  There were about a half dozen drivers who were either on the lunch break or about to start their day sitting at a table playing dominoes and watching Sanford & Son.  I needed to go BACK downtown to the stop.  One of the drivers overheard my dilemma and offered to take me downtown an hour later, he was heading that way anyway.

The next 60 minutes was just a cool experience filled with great conversation and just taking in the comradarie of these bus drivers.  The nicknames, the jokes, the competitiveness of the game, the shop talk…I was completely immersed and in awe of the friendship and the family they created for themselves.  It was just one of those times that you realize that people often spend more time with the people they work with than their own families….your work family is a family too.

I arrive downtown at the stop on Canal Street to a crowd of people awaiting their bus out of town.  I instantly spot a gentleman collecting tickets, ask him where I BUY a ticket, and he tells me that I have to call or go online.  I call the 800 number, thinking I’m 20 minutes away from finally getting on my way back home….only for the ticket agent on the other end to tell me that there are no openings on the bus for TWO MORE DAYS.  Again….there was nothing I could do but laugh it off.

Next move, I call my personal assistant to see if there is any progress on either any seats on flights or any rental cars.  Zero zilch nada.  I decided to just head back to the airport and actually talk to an agent at any of the rental car companies and see if there happens to be ANYTHING available.  I get back to Midway and go to the Hertz counter….and was told that there is a minivan available, but I’d have to go to the location in Chinatown to get it.  Ugh. 

Another train ride!  At this point I’m absolutely just loving the adventure.  I hop BACK on the train eagerly hoping the train moves faster so I can get to the rental car before anyone else puts a claim on it.  I was more excited than a kid on a road trip asking “Are we there yet?” repeatedly.

The train got about 4 stops away when I get a phone call.

“Rich, where are you?” my personal assistant asked.

“I’m on the train heading to Hertz to get a rental car.” 

“I found an opening on the 4:25 flight out of Chicago back to Minneapolis.  I can hold it for you, but you need to get back to the airport NOW to claim it!”

I always think of this story when I find myself in a situation where I’m met with an initial disappointment.  Sometimes it’s just NOT EASY.  Obstacles will be put in your way sometimes, but you have to FIND A WAY TO WIN.  Sometimes, these obstacles are put in your way as a test…a test to see if you want it bad enough.  In my experience, if you have faith that you will get it, if you are determined to get it, and commit to action….the universe will conspire to make it happen for you.  It’s not guaranteed, but one thing that is guaranteed is that you’ll never get what you want with a crap attitude and quitting at the first sign of resistance.  My (extra) day in Chicago could’ve been viewed and perceived as one big headache….but it was a great learning lesson that gave me the opportunity to grow and meet MORE people along the way.

Determine what you want. Free yourself of distractions. Be open and aware of your surroundings. Be prepared to sacrifice. Have faith in yourself and your abilities to navigate the course..